Allow yourself to grieve: You don’t have to always be the strong one. Divorce and loss hurt. Let yourself be sad, mad, frustrated, and a wide array of other feelings. This is normal. In order to move on, you must first deal with the present and acknowledge how you feel. But don’t let yourself get too caught up in feeling bad. Set a time frame and once that time is up, make a conscious effort to start moving on.
Lean on friends and family: There is nothing wrong with asking for help or seeking support. Talk through your feeling and frustrations. Turn to others who have gone through similar situations for insight into how they dealt with challenges and began rebuilding. Keeping everything bottled up and isolating yourself from others can increase risk of depression and make it more difficult to get back into the swing of daily life.
Do things that you enjoy: Make time to pick up old hobbies and interests. If you love painting but have been putting it off, break out your paints and express yourself. Join a fitness group or photography club, plant a garden, start running, or get lost in your favorite book. Boost your mood by focusing on things that make you happy and help you to stay involved. Try new things and set goals to stay motivated and give yourself a renewed sense of purpose and drive.
Focus on your wellbeing: You may not have much of an appetite or may want to sleep all the time, but try to get back into familiar routines. Make sure you are eating well-balanced meals, engaging in regular exercise, staying hydrated, and getting an adequate amount of sleep. Focusing on your basic needs can help your body to stay healthy, give you more energy, and support a more positive outlook.
Seek counseling: If sadness has continued to linger and your efforts to boost your mood and move on have had little effect, consider counseling. A counselor can help you to work through your feelings and the challenges that you face. They can offer strategies for moving on and regaining control of your life. It may be just what you need to get your life back on track and begin healing.
You don’t have to go through divorce alone. The team at Safe Harbor Christian Counseling is here to provide you with the support and guidance you need to deal with these changes in your life, cope with your emotions, and implement strategies for making the most of your future. If your divorce has left you feeling lost, contact Safe Harbor Christian Counseling at 1-800-305-2089 to schedule an appointment and learn more about our counseling services.